It’s not about the Children, damn you!

You know, I really hate people who can’t protect children in their own sacred buildings trying to tell the world that gays proclaiming that they are stable, loving couples are threats to our society. Or worse, to the world. MSNBC has the scoop, and yet again, when it comes to a battle that can’t be won on logic or even the bible, hate groups fall back on that old standard, “the children”.

“The most overlooked and disenfranchised group in the current debate about marriage is that of children,” Calgary Bishop Frederick Henry said in a recent statement.

“The issue is not whether traditional marriage, as it stands, is a perfect institution, but whether society and especially children are better off with it than without. Families with both mothers and fathers are generally better for children than those with only mothers or only fathers. Biological parents usually protect and provide for their children more effectively than non-biological ones.”

I would like to point out all the insults contained in those few words:

  • If you are a single mother, you aren’t raising your child right. So my sister Bridget, who is raising a very bright, well-behaved and well-adjusted wonderful girl, Kirsten, is doing something wrong. According to the Catholic Church, anyway.
  • If you are a single father, you aren’t raising your child right. I don’t have a child, or a male sibling, but I know a few single fathers, and if anything, they have to work harder to prove they are doing a good job with their kids, yet once again, instead of offering help, even if just prayers, The Church insults and slaps these people.
  • Biological parents are better than non-biological parents. My mom and uncle were adopted by the people I know as my grandparents, and while they have some biological link, it’s not of parents, obviously. And my mom’s biological parents died of alcoholism, and didn’t exactly leave their kids better off. It took a few years and lots of trauma before two loving people stepped up and adopted my mom and my uncle. And there were never two better people on the planet. And they were Catholic, as was the entire rest of the family, we’re Irish after all. I wonder what Grandpa Jim and Grandma Sporty are thinking now that they’ve been slapped with “not good enough” by The Church.

While I don’t know it all, and I don’t even pretend to know it all, I think it’s terribly pathetic that The Church, which is led by Those Men, can’t think that any display of LOVE is a good thing. That anyone willing to commit to another is a good thing. That God doesn’t make mistakes, and we are NOT sins of his.

I am a child of God. I have my trials and tribulations, I have my questions, my fears, my hopes, my dreams, my life, and above all, my loves.

My family loves me, and I love them. Sometimes we all drive each other nuts, sometimes we all do stupid things, and sometimes we hurt those we love without ever realizing it. These are the only truths that I have.

I can’t be perfect, I’m not trying to be. But neither will I stand back and be silent while my family is denigrated by men who are so out of touch with humanity as to think that no matter what the cost, gay marriage must be stopped. They go too far, they wound too much, and frankly, they are wrong. I hope you can see that. I also hope the next pope won’t be blind.






2 responses to “It’s not about the Children, damn you!”

  1. Lori Hamm Avatar

    Two comments: 1. Are you sure the bishop from Calgary that you quoted is Catholic? Sounds more Episcopalian to me. 2. It’s “led” not “lead”. Love you.

  2. KevinMichael Hamm Avatar

    Corrected the typo, thanks so much. As for the denomination, I presume he’s one of those who follow the teachings of Cathol as the article mentions the Catholic Church several times, but never any other denomination by name, and as the article states, Catholicism is the largest Christian religion in Canada.

    Love you too!!

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