Category: Friends

  • Why not me?

    I’m 42, soon to be 43, and I’m HIV-. I’m a gay male in the United State who grew up with the warning that if I had gay sex I would get AIDS and die. It hasn’t happened to me. But why not? Luck. That’s all it can be. I’m not particularly promiscuous, nor am […]

  • Honda does the Right Thing

    It’s been a stressful week. It’s the 2nd anniversary of Richard’s death, and it’s the first time that I’ve been able to spend it with Janna basically attached to her hip. During the first year of grieving she couldn’t handle being around me too much as she would attempt to convince herself it was 2005 […]

  • Southern Comfort

    I’ve been offline since late last week, which was when I had a last-minute deal appear in my lap and proceed to shred my thursday and friday like a demon-possessed wood chipper. Oh so much fun. And let’s not forget the random weather in Montana that included a blizzard that appeared at 2 am Saturday […]

  • Army National Guard Training

    Yeah. Read that title again and then think of all that you know about me. So yeah, there’s a bit of a twist. I was training them. In how to wear pink. No really. Actually I was training them on how to use Final Cut Pro. I’m pretty damn good at using that software, which […]

  • Actual bit of a conversation

    “When was the last time you saw your boyfriend?” “In person?” “No, through the scope of your rifle.”

  • More Thinking on Accessibility

    Jeff’s follow-on to his previous post is another must-read. And doubly-thanks for the shout out, Jeff, that’s always appreciated. I have something else to add to this, and it’s part of the discussion that I don’t see defined well, and, the back of my head being the meandering/simmering kind, this took a skosh more time […]

  • Ah to be young and gay on the stage at Carnegie Hall

    Let’s not forget, especially since this is Pride Month here in the lusty U.S. of A., that so many of the things that we adore about the gays are tied inextricably to Judy Garland. She gave us fashion, she gave us music, she gave us hope. And her final act on this earth, her funeral, […]

  • Miss Manners’ Guide to Mourning

    For all the well-meaning people of the world who have been so extremely lucky as to not have ever lost someone they unconditionally love, this is for you. Not because you’re asshats, no, it’s because you’re paving the road to hell with some fantastically insane good intentions by opening your mouths. I would like to […]

  • Studio 54 at Rich’s

    Perhaps the best part of the night was seeing so many people having such a great time because the music rocked, the dance floor was packed, the people were crazy brilliant and the night was a HUGE FUCKING PARTY! I don’t always know what it takes to get people out to the club, which is […]

  • Yeah, I write too much. Cope.

    First off, I’m talking about the comment spam that ran my hosted server through the roof today. I got home and had a message stating that I had used nearly 100 times my normal daily server cycles, and while that doesn’t put me anywhere near my limit, it does make me want to find out […]

  • Honored, again, by those who matter most

    I hate writing something like this, but I can’t go into details because it’s not my secret to give away. However, I’ve found out that I was honored in an amazing and profound way by some friends. They waited for my approval, they wanted my blessing, and they never outright asked, and had I not […]

  • Link to the Obits

    Everyone has been sending emails and wanting to know where the obituaries are, and I’ve not got the patience or time to respond to everyone individually. So here’s Rob Loder’s and then here is Richard Flick’s.

  • Richard – that’s 2 in 3 days, dammit!

    I can’t believe this. It’s so surreal and strange to me, and the only word to describe it is “fuck”. First, Robinson Loder dies of a heart failure on Thursday at work, and then Richard, the husband of my best friend Janna, a.k.a. The Cheerleader, dies in a car wreck late Saturday night. I keep […]

  • Robbed of Rob

    Ah, I probably shouldn’t be clever with the title, but he would have enjoyed it as he was just as clever, and just as likely to say something funny, brilliant, profound or warm. I guess that’s the best way to remember Robinson Loder, a good friend to everyone he met. I worked with Rob on […]

  • The Picture Show

    So I’ve been going through my iPhoto library and found that I have tons of pics, and I hated most ways of putting them online. I finally settled on using SlideShowPro and as it’s given me the versatility and the control that I want, plus it keeps from making people navigate all over hell and […]